Wednesday, January 7, 2015

Aunt Wanda



Here is a photo which we took with aunt Wanda yesterday.  Wanda is 97 years old making her the oldest living relative on the Gardner or Cullimore Side.  Wanda is the youngest child of Albert and Luella Cullimore and the youngest sister of Grandpa Jim.

Wanda is weak physically but very sharp mentally.  She has the Cullimore sense of humor.  She is a fountain of knowledge about the Cullimore Family.

It was good to spend an hour with her.

Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Life is Short

A few weeks ago I was able to attend a funeral for the father of one of Jace's friend's. He was diagnosed with cancer in April and passed away in November at 55. We were not especially close with the family, but Jace really wanted to be there to support his friend.

This man was in the Mormon Tabernacle Choir, and about half of the choir was at his funeral. They sang multiple musical numbers and filled the chapel with their angelic voices. During those songs, I was struck with how happy he must be, listening to his friends sing praises to his Savior as they celebrated this man's earthly life. Music is incredibly powerful. The spirit was palpable as we listened to them sing. It was a beautiful moment on a difficult day.

As his brothers and sisters spoke of him, there was such love and joy as they shared memories and moments with us. One brother talked about how as their lives had become busy, they had lost touch. He told the audience, "Don't wait until those you love are sick or dying before your reconnect and bond. Sometimes a text is not enough. Be with the ones you love. Support them. Really know them. Really love them."

The last thing that hit home was they way each speaker lovingly spoke of his kind and generous heart. He was a peacemaker and full of love, always willing to serve or share a smile. They talked about his humility...he worked most of his life for Deseret Industries, he was never going to be rich or famous or well known, but he shared his love and all he had with those around him. In the end, that is all the matters. The stake center was full to the stage with people whom he had touched along the way. I imagine he looked down at a life well lived. 

I was incredibly grateful to be at the funeral...grateful for my own life and the time I have here on earth and grateful for the fresh perspective I gained as I learned more about what it means to really live. 




THE HAND OF THE LORD HELPING GUMMY AND GUMPY IN HAITI IN A DIFFERENT WAY


As most of you know, we have a Humanitarian Assignment that takes us, literally, all over the world.  One of the countries to which we are assigned is Haiti.  Two and a half years ago we were asked to go to Haiti and develop a program whereby the people could be given the opportunity to become more self-reliant.
There have been so many times when we have felt the “hand of the Lord” guide us in this assignment in Haiti!  Just the fact that we were able to develop a program and implement projects which now involve some 240 different families in 12 Wards and Branches, is a virtual miracle in and of itself.  This could not have been done without the intervention of the Lord and his direct inspiration.  It certainly could not have been done through our own understanding and experience.

A particular example of the Hand of the Lord happened this (2014) fall:

The projects which have been developed in Haiti involve families raising chickens – primarily meat birds (broilers).  These are people with little or no experience in raising the chickens, and no experience in handling money or marketing their products.  So part of the program is training.  Specialists train in nutrition, construction of coops, how to raise and care for the chickens, and, perhaps most importantly on budgeting, personal finance and marketing.

We have felt good about the experts who have taught about nutrition and construction and how to raise the chickens.  There are local experts in these fields, and the results have been good.  The Church has a training program for businesses and finance, and there had been some local leaders in Haiti trained in this training program.  They had taken the first few projects and conducted the “finance” training.  It appeared at first that this was very adequate.

However, little things kept popping up which made us wonder.  Nothing major and nothing that would give us reason for real concern.  But when we made our visit to Haiti in September, we had very strong impressions that the Church Members who worked for the Church with whom we were working on the projects needed some additional training.  This need for training manifested itself in rather obvious ways.  In addition, we felt an uneasy discomfort about the training the families were receiving on the budgeting and finance and marketing.  There was nothing we could put our finger on, but the impression was so strong
that we could not “shake” it.

So we made a request that we be allowed to go back to Haiti in November (the last place we really wanted to go in November) and train the two men we worked with on their administration.  We determined we would visit projects with them, but would spend two full days just refining, planning and teaching.  Then we requested that we attend one of the training courses on Budgeting, Personal Finance and Marketing which was being given in one of the Wards which was instigating a new “Broiler” project.

Our training went well.  It became very obvious that the two men with whom we work needed further development in their skills.  So this part of the November trip was a huge success – and we felt the direction of the Lord the entire time we were meeting.

 Four or five hours were set aside to attend the financial training in the Ward – as a matter of fact we had allocated a full day for this.  We attended the training, and as the spirit had whispered, it was a disaster.  It was not well organized, the trainer was not well prepared, and the material presented was totally inadequate.  No one in Haiti had caught this in the other Wards.  Everything was reported as going well.  While there were little things that bothered us, there was nothing that would have been dramatic enough for us to ask for the opportunity of sitting in on a training.  It was totally inspiration.

So we stepped in and with the help of a local leader, took over and conducted the remainder of this particular training.  We made sure we did not offend the trainer, and actually he had done the best he knew how to do.

From this experience we learned that there needed to be a better understanding of what was to be taught, and that we needed to have more qualified Trainers.  It was obvious that we needed to be a curriculum for the course.

So that night we went back to our hotel, and sat down and made an outline of what needed to be taught in the course.  Then from that outline we prepared a detailed step by step outline of what the course should contain.  This was all accomplished in the space of about three hours or so.  There was no way that we as inexperienced and unknowledgeable people could have done this.  It was the hand of the Lord and there can be no question about it.  We were overwhelmed when, at the close of the evening we realized what had been accomplished.  We knelt and gave thanks for the guidance and direction we had been given.  The Lord had taken control and had insured that what needed to be done was accomplished.

It is hard to even explain this and have it as impactful as it was to us.  But we can testify that in this situation as in many others in Haiti and other countries, the Lord inspired us and took us by the hand and made it possible for us to accomplish what needed to be done – even things that we did not know needed to be done.


The Lord is in charge and if we listen to the whisperings of the Spirit, He will lead us and direct us.

Monday, August 11, 2014

Keaton: Hand of the Lord

I am running out of time, but I have a pretty cool story that happened yesterday. I sat down next to this lady on the bus, and I tried to give here a card and start a conversation. She initially ignored me and then took a card. She then mentioned that she was having a bad day, and I just simply replied I hope that it gets better. She looks at her phone for five minutes , and then she asks where can she get a Book of Mormon. At this point we were at our stop, but we stayed on the bus and were able to get her number, and hopefully see her this week. I thought that was a cool miracle, it is the little things that you do that make a difference sometimes. 

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

The Lord Builds Us Up: Gummy and Gumpy

Dear Family:

When we talk about the hand of the Lord in our lives, we sometimes overlook some of the obvious.

Somewhere along the line the Lord has blessed us with energy and vigor (when we say “us” we mean our family – not just Gummy and Gumpy).  Isn’t this the hand of the Lord?  Almost without exception, couples tell us after our visits that they cannot imagine how we get everything done and how much energy we have.  The comments from the couple below are quite typical.

We just thought – this energy and vigor is a great example of the hand of the Lord in our lives – and we are most grateful.  We can take no credit for this personally – it is a gift from Heavenly Father.  This gift of energy and vitality has certainly made it possible for us to be an instrument in His Hands quite a bit beyond the age which you would expect to be functioning in the type of work we are doing.  We acknowledge this special blessing and give thanks to the Lord for granting us this opportunity.

Mom & Dad

From: Jeffrey Hy Talley [mailto:jtalley@ldschurch.org]  E/S Talley are the Humanitarian Senior Couple with whom we worked for the past couple of weeks in Peru. They are ten years younger than we are.

Dear Elder and Sister Cullimore, 
We hope your trip to Ecuador and back to the States was successful and safe. 
Taking a little time to reflect on the 10 days you were here in Peru with us, leaves us with no doubt that this part of your trip was very successful. 

Our first thought and feeling is one of much gratitude to both of you for your time, efforts and knowledge that you have been willing to share with us. And we are very grateful to our Heavenly Father for the many wonderful experiences we had with you during our trips to Chiclayo and Iquitos. We feel that your tireless efforts and hard work will be a great blessing to the people here in Peru and to us.

Our second feeling and thought is, where do you get the energy to do all that you do? I believe Audrey and I both came away feeling like wow, we need to get in better shape if we want to stay up with the Cullimore's. You are a great example of getting things done and giving service when most would be taking a more easy road in life. Thank you for your example!

Thank you again for all that you have done and for your friendship. We will do our best to move this work forward in a way that will hopefully be productive and sustainable. 

We will keep you posted on our progress and look forward to more opportunities in the future to work together with you in this great work that we have been blessed to participate in. 

Muchisimas Gracias por todo, 

Jeff and Audrey 

Healing Power of the Lord: Teisha

This is such a difficult experience for me to share but I honestly cannot think of a better example of the Healing Power of the Lord and I hope that each you can see how powerful the Lord truly is in our lives.
As many of you know Tommy and I have hit a very difficult path in our marriage…  The end of March Tommy and I had started fighting about his relationship with a co-worker and within a week he had decided to move out. He moved in with this woman and in all since of the word “gave up” on life. He began having an affair with her and started neglecting his family. Once he made this decision things moved very quickly on my end. I filed for divorce immediately. Things continued to escalate between us in a negative way.   The first of June Tommy started telling me he wanted to fix our marriage and how truly sorry he was…. As you can imagine I was beyond angry.  He had gotten his own place and had started taking the steps of repentance. I say steps because meeting with the Bishop is one small step, to truly repent of something you must transform and take action to ensure those mistakes do not happen again.  In the beginning I did not care what he said I was set on going through with the divorce and moving on with my life…. But throughout the month my heart started to soften and I began to realize how important my eternal family was.
I can truly testify of the healing power of the Savior from my experience. I don’t think I ever truly understood the Atonement until I was put in this situation. I am a very stubborn person who has the attitude that I can do everything on my own…. Also extremely prideful so for me to try and forgive Tommy in my mind was I sign of weakness.  Through the Power of the Atonement my heart has softened more than words can express.  At the first of June I literally could have cared less if I ever talked to Tommy again in my life but now I am fighting to save my eternal family. Only the Atonement and the Lord could make such a drastic change in someone’s heart.  I have never been alone in this trial in life and I know the Lord has watched over me and my children and given me the strength to endure this trial.
I want to include this in here as almost a warning to others…. Nurture your Marriage.  Tommy is without a doubt my best friend and the person I chose to spend eternity with but we became selfish in our marriage. Tommy became very self focused and we both lost focus as to what truly mattered in life. We did not do family prayer, scripture study, family home evening, we never truly understood how to make our family grow in the correct direction.  We also did not nurture our marriage—Tommy and I rarely took a night out without our children and we have not taken a vacation for the two of us in over 5 years.  You must do this. Reflecting back on my marriage with Tommy I can tell you where our short comings were and how we got to such a difficult trial in our life.  Tommy grew up with a very difficult background- his mom abandoned him at a young age and his father was emotionally abusive. I only include this because they way Tommy handled our problems was a learned behavior; your spouse might not handle something as extreme as Tommy did but that does not mean your marriage is safe.  Nurture it, love your spouse!
Trials are given to us for a reason and although it is so difficult to see while going through the trail we always come out stronger. Dieter F Uchtdor states, “It is often in the trial of adversity that we learn those most critical lessons that form our character and shape our destiny.” Without a doubt this is true for me. I have learned the true meaning of the atonement, I have learned the healing power of the Savior, and I have learned what kind of person I want to be and what kind of mother I will be.
Tommy and I both want to fight for our eternal family and although I know we have a very difficult road ahead of us I know that through the healing power of the Lord I will be able to forgive Tommy for his transgressions and that we will be able to grow together in our marriage if we both truly turn our will to God.   Lastly, I want to reference an article that made such a strong impact on me when deciding what to do in my marriage:  https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2007/04/divorce?lang=eng

Friday, July 25, 2014

Lost

Hopefully Teisha doesn't mind me sharing this on here!  It's not my experience but I was part of it.

Earlier this week, there was an early open day for season pass holders at Cowabunga Bay.  Both Teisha and I have passes there and we see each other there from time to time.  I happened to have saved some extra chairs and saw her come in so she was sitting right by us that day.  Because it was an early open event, they had a DJ there that was playing music and interacting with the crowd.

She packed up earlier than me and headed out.  Not long after I saw her leave, I heard the DJ announce that a little 3 yr old boy with blonde hair was lost and his name was Kinkade and to please look for him.  I immediately knew it was Teisha and started looking around for him.  When I couldn't see him in the pool area I was in, I started toward the main gate and found Teisha.  She had told me that she was putting Tennyson in the car and when she turned around Kinkade was gone.  She had looked all over the parking lot and at the bowling center across the parking lot and she could not find him.  

The DJ announced that they were still looking for him and I went around the back part of the park and ran into a teacher's aide from Addie's school who was also walking around looking for him.  When I explained that I had looked everywhere in the park with no sign of him but that Teisha had told me she had been in the parking lot when she lost him, she headed out there to look for him. 

I continued to look in the park and then went to find Teisha.  She and I were headed out to the parking lot when we saw the aide from Addie's school and she said she found him out in the parking lot, three or four rows out on a little island of grass.  At that same time, Tommy pulled up and saw him so he picked him up and met up with Teisha at the front gate. 

There is no doubt in my mind that the hand of the Lord was in this in many ways.  For me to be at the waterpark and see her, for the DJ to be there and able to announce for everyone to hear, for the teacher's aide that I knew to be there and looking for him and run into me, it is definitely not a coincidence.   Having lost Addie once before, I know what Teisha was feeling like and it's a terrible feeling.  I was just glad that I was there and able to help and that he was found safe and sound! 


It's good to have these kind of reminders that the Lord is always watchful and mindful of us and is involved even in the smallest of things!