Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Life is Short

A few weeks ago I was able to attend a funeral for the father of one of Jace's friend's. He was diagnosed with cancer in April and passed away in November at 55. We were not especially close with the family, but Jace really wanted to be there to support his friend.

This man was in the Mormon Tabernacle Choir, and about half of the choir was at his funeral. They sang multiple musical numbers and filled the chapel with their angelic voices. During those songs, I was struck with how happy he must be, listening to his friends sing praises to his Savior as they celebrated this man's earthly life. Music is incredibly powerful. The spirit was palpable as we listened to them sing. It was a beautiful moment on a difficult day.

As his brothers and sisters spoke of him, there was such love and joy as they shared memories and moments with us. One brother talked about how as their lives had become busy, they had lost touch. He told the audience, "Don't wait until those you love are sick or dying before your reconnect and bond. Sometimes a text is not enough. Be with the ones you love. Support them. Really know them. Really love them."

The last thing that hit home was they way each speaker lovingly spoke of his kind and generous heart. He was a peacemaker and full of love, always willing to serve or share a smile. They talked about his humility...he worked most of his life for Deseret Industries, he was never going to be rich or famous or well known, but he shared his love and all he had with those around him. In the end, that is all the matters. The stake center was full to the stage with people whom he had touched along the way. I imagine he looked down at a life well lived. 

I was incredibly grateful to be at the funeral...grateful for my own life and the time I have here on earth and grateful for the fresh perspective I gained as I learned more about what it means to really live. 




THE HAND OF THE LORD HELPING GUMMY AND GUMPY IN HAITI IN A DIFFERENT WAY


As most of you know, we have a Humanitarian Assignment that takes us, literally, all over the world.  One of the countries to which we are assigned is Haiti.  Two and a half years ago we were asked to go to Haiti and develop a program whereby the people could be given the opportunity to become more self-reliant.
There have been so many times when we have felt the “hand of the Lord” guide us in this assignment in Haiti!  Just the fact that we were able to develop a program and implement projects which now involve some 240 different families in 12 Wards and Branches, is a virtual miracle in and of itself.  This could not have been done without the intervention of the Lord and his direct inspiration.  It certainly could not have been done through our own understanding and experience.

A particular example of the Hand of the Lord happened this (2014) fall:

The projects which have been developed in Haiti involve families raising chickens – primarily meat birds (broilers).  These are people with little or no experience in raising the chickens, and no experience in handling money or marketing their products.  So part of the program is training.  Specialists train in nutrition, construction of coops, how to raise and care for the chickens, and, perhaps most importantly on budgeting, personal finance and marketing.

We have felt good about the experts who have taught about nutrition and construction and how to raise the chickens.  There are local experts in these fields, and the results have been good.  The Church has a training program for businesses and finance, and there had been some local leaders in Haiti trained in this training program.  They had taken the first few projects and conducted the “finance” training.  It appeared at first that this was very adequate.

However, little things kept popping up which made us wonder.  Nothing major and nothing that would give us reason for real concern.  But when we made our visit to Haiti in September, we had very strong impressions that the Church Members who worked for the Church with whom we were working on the projects needed some additional training.  This need for training manifested itself in rather obvious ways.  In addition, we felt an uneasy discomfort about the training the families were receiving on the budgeting and finance and marketing.  There was nothing we could put our finger on, but the impression was so strong
that we could not “shake” it.

So we made a request that we be allowed to go back to Haiti in November (the last place we really wanted to go in November) and train the two men we worked with on their administration.  We determined we would visit projects with them, but would spend two full days just refining, planning and teaching.  Then we requested that we attend one of the training courses on Budgeting, Personal Finance and Marketing which was being given in one of the Wards which was instigating a new “Broiler” project.

Our training went well.  It became very obvious that the two men with whom we work needed further development in their skills.  So this part of the November trip was a huge success – and we felt the direction of the Lord the entire time we were meeting.

 Four or five hours were set aside to attend the financial training in the Ward – as a matter of fact we had allocated a full day for this.  We attended the training, and as the spirit had whispered, it was a disaster.  It was not well organized, the trainer was not well prepared, and the material presented was totally inadequate.  No one in Haiti had caught this in the other Wards.  Everything was reported as going well.  While there were little things that bothered us, there was nothing that would have been dramatic enough for us to ask for the opportunity of sitting in on a training.  It was totally inspiration.

So we stepped in and with the help of a local leader, took over and conducted the remainder of this particular training.  We made sure we did not offend the trainer, and actually he had done the best he knew how to do.

From this experience we learned that there needed to be a better understanding of what was to be taught, and that we needed to have more qualified Trainers.  It was obvious that we needed to be a curriculum for the course.

So that night we went back to our hotel, and sat down and made an outline of what needed to be taught in the course.  Then from that outline we prepared a detailed step by step outline of what the course should contain.  This was all accomplished in the space of about three hours or so.  There was no way that we as inexperienced and unknowledgeable people could have done this.  It was the hand of the Lord and there can be no question about it.  We were overwhelmed when, at the close of the evening we realized what had been accomplished.  We knelt and gave thanks for the guidance and direction we had been given.  The Lord had taken control and had insured that what needed to be done was accomplished.

It is hard to even explain this and have it as impactful as it was to us.  But we can testify that in this situation as in many others in Haiti and other countries, the Lord inspired us and took us by the hand and made it possible for us to accomplish what needed to be done – even things that we did not know needed to be done.


The Lord is in charge and if we listen to the whisperings of the Spirit, He will lead us and direct us.